Sunday, October 27, 2013

Friendship

This year, I've come to a new realization. Friends aren't what I thought they were, at least my idea of friendship was a bit warped. High school is a place where we're finally aloud to be ourselves, because unlike middle school, we're not all mushed together in a glob of angry 12 year old's who are being forced to be friendly to each other. Middle school just seemed like a failed attempt at getting us kids to bond during the most hormonal part of our lives. Everyone was changing into an adult and no one really knew what to do about it, we had no breathing room. Which in turn made my middle school something I'd rather forget. I had been floating around in that mass our 12 year old's with no goal, no meaning and no real friends. Until 8th grade I didn't have a problem with that, but then when we received a fresh batch of personalities from all over the country. This introduced me to so many new things I was a bit overwhelmed, I tried to force my way into anyone's live who I thought what cool. Not the best idea.

This year everything was different, instead of having a set of rules I had to follow and being an arms length from every student in my grade 24/7, I had time to myself. It was amazing. I took this chance to meet new people, like upperclassmen and the new kids in our grade. I walked around seeing people laughing at other peoples jokes and just the general feeling of acceptance. I saw friends walking around talking and just enjoying each others company. Before friendship for me was always so forced and dramatic, but these people seemed to be so carefree. Popular people were hanging with "nerds" and everyone seemed out of place. I realized something then. Friendship isn't something you force yourself into with an interesting person, its not something that you should be afraid of breaking because its so fragile. Friendship is a bond between people that is created when you show another person who you really are, and they love it, they don't judge your weirdness, or act different in front of people who they think are cooler than you. It's something you would do anything for, no matter who it was. I realized that it wasn't based off of "social classes" it was based off love, if you love someone for who they are, be their friend. Who cares if they don't dress like someone in vogue, or listen to bad music, if they make you happy then who cares what anyone else thinks. 

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